WEDLOCK OR DEADLOCK

                                         

   Don’t you think our life follows fixed pattern….typical common milestones kindergarden ,school, graduation ,post graduation (sometimes not mandatory),job and then comes the deadly phase called wedding. i always had been famous in my friend circle as wedding hater and it’s not like that they never tried to change my mentality but always failed(i seriously don’t know that i must be happy or sad about it.)

     Well so now when i have entered the job phase it seems whole universe of mine which contains my dear parents and not so dear relatives are all enlighted and suddenly they see me as a perfect girl for any XYZ son of their ABC relative ,friend, neighbour…… whatever!!!!

    Thanx to my staring angry reaction on this forbidden topic that my parents still can’t say anything openly but with any wedding invitation i can see their grinning faces and hear those whispers(Well I don’t mind they always conspire against me…hehe)

     Only my friends had this right to talk about the “W” word and believe me they used it very rightfully. They asked me one reason and i gave them a full list.

       Hey i don’t consider myself as wedding hater but i do hate all restrictions that are on wedding and also those comes free with it afterwards. Like restriction on age, Girls 25-26  guys 28-29 and god forbade if a girl reaches 30 seems all valid offers suddenly become invalid. I ask why ? What’s wrong if i want to get married at 33 or 35 or never……and here comes the second restriction ” Marriage is Mandatory”. I don’t think it’s written in our legal books but it is written in our so called social books. when i tell anyone that yeah i do have plans not to tie knot they always laugh off saying it’s a childish thought “You have to…”again i ask why ?

  One more concept am still confused about is arrange marriage. If somehow in any of the arguments people convince me about the importance of wedding then i do say ” Ok if two people like each other and know that they can bear each other for whole life then wedding can be a fine option as it gives social stamp but if  one never been in this situation (luckily) then just for the sake of society tying knot seems stupid to me.”

    There are myriad other things which made me wedding repellant when i think from a girl’s point of view compromises ,career, responsibilities ,complicated relatives and then if after realizing the mistake one wants separation then stiff divorce rules.

    It’s a total deadlock situation. So  i do enjoy wedding receptions with delicious food and enjoy dance floor but while smiling think in mind ”Two more down”(i know it’s devilish ..hey but am human i have right for it)