BEING SINGLE

  

   Having relationship status as single on facebook is surely no proud thing but from my personal experience I can tell it's no sin also.But when you do get near your silver jubliee and with the medal of being single you do have another star of "never been in a relationship" then I think it's time for your parents to get tensed.Some overtensed parents can also suggest therapy in this scenario but it's their point of view.Here I want to talk about my perspective so not getting deviated from the topic lets put the person in courtroom and ask why,how....etc etc.

    So Me Lord it's not all my mistake.I had spent my childhood reading fairy tales,my teenage watching barbie movies and afterwards our full of saccharine sentimentalism bollywood movies.Now the image created in my mind of Mr.Perfect was way too much perfect and even after my some undesired efforts(it's not like as if i haven't tried at all) I was unable to pull my dream boy from my dreams and find him in real world.

    Well this thing never bothered me much but OMG these bollywood movies sometimes they act as a strict mom of teenage daughter.Always telling the reverse of what the young girl wants to do.So even after my all no no they told me "Pyar dosti hai" ."Tujhme rab dikhta hai" and the ultimate one "Bhagwan ne hame jodiyon  me banaya hai bas milna hampe chhod dia hai" said by Madhuri Dixit the angel send by cupid in Dil To Pagal Hai .This dialogue always brings tears in my eyes...oh no not because of emotions but because it makes me laugh so hard.

    Even after this much of tension (of course environment is tensed as 'Ladki badi ho rahi hai')  I am more worried about my 'Worse Half'.Poor fellow what he is doing until now without me and for God's sake where is he wandering???

    Yeah I know coming on white horse is very much dramatic.So if he has to come on Hayabusa or BMW (Of course class matters) then is he waiting for petrol price to go down .I don't think it gonna happen(said about petrol price not about brands of vehicles hehehe).

    I also have full scene prepared in my mind with dialogues and background sounds ,how will be my first meeting with my prince charming.Seriously blowing wind,violin and flying leaves are too much to think of and very much cliched.

    It will be in total my style eyes in eyes,getting closer and first thing I will do is to punch him and ask what took you so long to find me???Dude i live in city not in tropical forests so why were u not able to find me earlier....I just wish it won't scare him off ,leaving a tag behind for me SINGLE.

    

   

                                             NOMADIC TENDENCIES

                                     

"I want to live my life on edge,want to travel all around the world,meet new people,know different cultures,try new cuisines,try bungee jumping,sky diving want to have near death experience."A   voice inside my head said and believe me it happened way before the release of movie 'Ye Jawani Hai Diwani'so i also can't blame Ranbeer's dialogue "Mai udna chahta hu...Daudna chahta hu....girna bhi chahta hu...bas rukna nhi chahta"for this sudden outburst.

   And when I observed around me it's not only me who feels like this.News feed on my Facebook page is full of snaps of friends going to different places,camping,trekking,biking.Youngsters keep talking about adventure and adrenaline rush.

   But from where it all coming from???? I do remember when in school time I got the opportunity to go for parasailing literally I had to beg my parents for permission.According to me it was exciting and awesome experience , according to them it was dangerous and stupid idea.(It's another thing that I won the argument).

   But still we are so comfortable in our daily metro life full of gifts of science where we get everything purified from water to beer,now weather and seasons don't affect us we have control of temperature around us.With one call you can get everything (from pizza to cab) at your doorstep and well I can give myriad other examples but I think you got the point so again what is this urge that makes us to go to those rude mountains for trekking or to go to those rainy forests filled with blood sucking leeches for camping,why instead of sitting in our comfy couch we plan for trips where we could need to face fury of nature and that too is also not free of cost .We have to loose our pockets for that.

  Is it just a try to break the routine of monotonous life or is it a proof that does't matter how much we evolve we still have genes of early man.Somewhere deep down inside we are like our ancestors nomadic.With time that tendency may have got suppressed but didn't fully become vestigial. It may be in hibernation but not dead.And a little spark of freedom and desire can turn it in forest fire of zeal and passion.

   And within hours only we are planned with our brochures,online packages,maps.backpacks or bikes.

    So after planning any trip like this when I need to convince my parents I too say in full bollywood style "I do have a list of things I want to do before I die as'Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara' ".Now you tell do they have any other option than saying yes????

                             PERCEPTION / DECEPTION

Actually we all live in black and white world.Please pay attention … black and white are not colours here.They mean the concept of good and bad which we have  created and got so much absorbed in it that we totally deny the existence of grey.The midway is blocked by the cataracts of our perception.

 Perception differs,I agree but why it is so limited,so much within boundaries and chains that if someone is having a different thought than ours then mostly we take  it as wrong.

 I believe in neutrality, nothingness. If it’s wrong here somewhere it is right.Things depend how you want to see them…feel them…perceive them. Once in this kind of argument with one of my friends(Yeah… arguing is one of my favourite pastimes)she asked me for an example. I gave one that made her laugh badly but at the end convinced her.

I told her you must have seen that hot,sizzling song of movie “Jism” picturised on Bipasha and John “jadu hai nasha hai”(PLZ focus on lyrics and not on scenes) so it’s a melodious song now in your mind just imagine you are in a temple with idol of God in front of you and you are singing the same song as bhajan,again pay attention on lyrics “jadu hai nasha hai…madhoshiyaan…tujhko bhulake ab jau kaha……dekhti hai jis tarah se teri nazarein mujhe me khud ko chupau kaha…”

See how the meaning changes when you singing that initially sensuous song now in praise of God saying that am so drowned in you that i can’t go anywhere forgetting you and your eyes always see me i can’t hide from you.

Call it perception or deception but it is something.

                                       WEDLOCK OR DEADLOCK

                                         

   Don’t you think our life follows fixed pattern….typical common milestones kindergarden ,school, graduation ,post graduation (sometimes not mandatory),job and then comes the deadly phase called wedding. i always had been famous in my friend circle as wedding hater and it’s not like that they never tried to change my mentality but always failed(i seriously don’t know that i must be happy or sad about it.)

     Well so now when i have entered the job phase it seems whole universe of mine which contains my dear parents and not so dear relatives are all enlighted and suddenly they see me as a perfect girl for any XYZ son of their ABC relative ,friend, neighbour…… whatever!!!!

    Thanx to my staring angry reaction on this forbidden topic that my parents still can’t say anything openly but with any wedding invitation i can see their grinning faces and hear those whispers(Well I don’t mind they always conspire against me…hehe)

     Only my friends had this right to talk about the “W” word and believe me they used it very rightfully. They asked me one reason and i gave them a full list.

       Hey i don’t consider myself as wedding hater but i do hate all restrictions that are on wedding and also those comes free with it afterwards. Like restriction on age, Girls 25-26  guys 28-29 and god forbade if a girl reaches 30 seems all valid offers suddenly become invalid. I ask why ? What’s wrong if i want to get married at 33 or 35 or never……and here comes the second restriction ” Marriage is Mandatory”. I don’t think it’s written in our legal books but it is written in our so called social books. when i tell anyone that yeah i do have plans not to tie knot they always laugh off saying it’s a childish thought “You have to…”again i ask why ?

  One more concept am still confused about is arrange marriage. If somehow in any of the arguments people convince me about the importance of wedding then i do say ” Ok if two people like each other and know that they can bear each other for whole life then wedding can be a fine option as it gives social stamp but if  one never been in this situation (luckily) then just for the sake of society tying knot seems stupid to me.”

    There are myriad other things which made me wedding repellant when i think from a girl’s point of view compromises ,career, responsibilities ,complicated relatives and then if after realizing the mistake one wants separation then stiff divorce rules.

    It’s a total deadlock situation. So  i do enjoy wedding receptions with delicious food and enjoy dance floor but while smiling think in mind ”Two more down”(i know it’s devilish ..hey but am human i have right for it) 

                                              Those tit bits of happy moments

“Zindagi ki bhaag daud me rakha kya hai….yahi jeena hai yar to marna kya hai…”

Lovely lines ..well not by me.from movie ’lage raho munna bhai’ .But in real i came to know the true meaning of lines recently.From college to office…from dehradun to Bangalore and from being a carefree student to responsible professional….yup much changed. My biggest dream came true.Its not only a job for me it is a key of my self dependence and freedom which i always aspired more than money or anything else. But also some other truths came out of grave. Truths i knew but never gave much thought. Things like fast life of big cities, busy people, selfish people.I was observing things around me(what to do am addicted of observing now).The morning of people starts with running for buses with earphones in their ears.I can’t undersatand what they want to suppress voices around them or the voice in their heads .Whole day in office(I don’t think i need to elaborate that.Its more or less same everyday).In evening again running back for bus talking on cell. At night some fastfood as meal and facebook. That’s it …end of day. Anew day begins but old routine continues . Life goes on.I love this city…the job…but am not liking this routine. I believe that everyday should have something new, doesn’t matter how tiny miny it is.My schedule is also busy and tight but i found some tit bits of happy moments.

It always feels nice to see a smiling face and our ”SHINCHAN” bhaiya gives the most awesome smile.  He is cook,helper,watchman all in one, one man army of my PG. Basically from Assam and his real name is Shimang but he is so cute i prefer to call him shinchan like that cartoon character and the way he has his burst of laugh seriously makes my day.

Its only 15 minutes walking distance from my residence to office but on the way there is a temple.I haven’t visited it yet but in morning when i cross it i do nod and love the sounds of those bells.

Near office there is a school and in morning time its so nice to see kids with their dress on and with school bags running towards school. Always makes me remind my school days.

In evening occassionaly we have our ”Golgappa” parties  at our Allahabad wale bhaiya’s  stall who hates bangalore’s food but serve yumm golgappas.

Well these were just some happy moments of my day. I know not very happening but atleast  i don’t try to suppress sounds around me with earphones(I never use earphones on road) and who knows there will be many exiting and happening days. until then…Cheers

                           On The Other Side of Yellow Line

What importance a mere line could hold in a person’s life ?Hmm…people of north India specially NCR region are well familiar with metro and its yellow line concept. Well the one compartment on the other side of yellow line is reserved for women. Just a gesture of government for making safe and easy journey for fairer sex. With my many Delhi trips and spending enough time in metro my hyperactive brain was always observing all things around there and then it striked me Hey i too had a yellow line in my life and i did prefer to remain on one side of it. What created that line ?Even i don’t remember the circumstances. It surely wasn’t some heart breaking incident, or shocking revealation, neither some devasting accident …then what? May be it was created due to all the tit bit things happened (happens almost in every girl’s life) a smile taken wrong, genuine sweetness and care thought of wrong intentions, indecent touch, stares, in my case an additional factor was my one month journey by city bus during training period(after which i decided to avoid public transport as much as possible and am still on my vow).Also some passive  factors were there like a restriction on behavior, words ,even way of talking while dealing with darker sex and opposite to all this in the company of my community there was an acceptance ,no fakeness ,no twice thinking of what i have to say, to wear ,to behave. So from school to college eventually the line got darker and darker. And i never needed to get out of my comfort zone. I was so much far on the one side of yellow line that initial steps of closest friends were futile and i was adamant. But it happens ……just like…sometime you are just on time when metro is leaving and can’t run upto that line. It happened and it was like a new experience i was on the side of yellow line. Hmm…it was not that horrible that i had thought and imagined. Maybe i was overprotective for myself. Maybe some bad experiences were engulfing my thought process.

So finally i do crossed yellow line. Its not totally perfect still sour experiences happen but i don’t care now. Afterall now i have access to all the compartments ….not only of metro but also of life.

                                                        My “Funda” for life

We had a society in our college with different beaureos like cultural, editorial, literary etc etc. As a fresher i too gave all interviews but by my bad luck (or good luck…well you never know) i wasn’t selected in any of them ( i still wonder why) Hmm…. By the way the questions they asked me there were very interesting like Define yourself. How are you different from others. What should be qualities of a leader and many more but my favourite Q was “What is your Funda for life”. I don’t remember what i said(or in better words mumbled) at that time but am thinking if today somebody ask me this Q what will i say. Well  i read a lot so have gone through many articles regarding life and its definitions. Life is a journey, Life is a a race…win it, Life is a gamble. Life is an unanswered but important Q, Life is a riddle ….solve it and many many more.

It all made me so confused.i was again at square one from where i had started my journey….WHAT IS LIFE….so i gave it a thought myself just looking around for ans and then i realized life is …..just life. Why to add all the metaphores to it, why to make it so much complicated. Its mere life. We get so much busy in defining, travelling, racing and winning life that we forget to live it. life is not big deal, infact it’s so simple .We ourself make it complex by all those big words. So when i got satisfied with my definition of life i automatically found my “Funda” for life “LIVE IT”. Live the present moment instead of planning for the days about whom we know nothing. Every moment lived fullest will itself create a  better future and if it doesn’t then we will deal with it when the time comes. Why to ruin today for it.

So long story short my funda for life is instead of spending, travelling ,running, winning or defining life just “LIVE ” it as simple as that.

(Hmm.. now am thinking if i had given this ans  at the time of my interview i must have been selected.)